Around 6000RPM is fine, the Mercedes Transmission service manual claims it should shift at 62MPH, kind of strange that they would specify a speed as cars with different axle ratios would be at different speeds at full RPM. That is where I got the 62MPH info from and I tested my car and it shifts promptly at 62MPH with a 3:92 Diff gear.
Your kick down not working very well could be the switch under the pedal. Until you fix it you can shift down to third at any time under 62 MPH safely I would assume for manual kickdown. I also now like that I know I can downshift without needing to floor the accellerator if I use the engine for braking or just want to downshift. Not a great idea, brakes are cheaper than trannies, but it can stop faster in a panic stop possibly. Not sure of the facts here but it seems like you would stop quicker than just with the brakes alone.
I also always heard you should downshift a standard tranny car to save the brakes until the resident genious [may he rest in peace] over on the Unimog site explained that wearing your expensive tranny to save some cheap brakes doesn't really make sense. On a long downhill it can help with not overheating brakes but mostly now I just put a manual tranny in nuetral, stop and shift to first when taking off. Everything seems very happy that way.