Thanks guys. The head will go for testing. The car had one lady owner from new until 18 months ago, it did about 200 miles a year over the past 4 years. It did have a major engine rebuild, about 7k miles (12 years!) ago but is it true that the head needs to be tightened down at least once after rebild, and again some miles later? Say 600 miles after rebuild? If this is the case, it would have been 3 yearsto cover 600 miles and she probably forgot!
Probably the same re anti freeze not being replaced. It was running so well! zero oil burn, and just on no 3 plug getting wet, then it went big time. I guess i could have got away with just retightening the head before removal to try? Anyway, working on it now, will relay back any findings in case it helps others.