I may be wrong, but it seems to me that the more you tighten the nut, the more you pull the pinion forward and the more play you end-up with. There is a collapsible sleeve in there that needs to be put new. Once it's collapsed too much, then you need to replace it with a new one. I've also seen some spacing rings put on each side of that collapsible sleeve, though they don't seem to show on EPC. The other adjustment you have is that big nut on the right side of the differential carrier. But same thing: the more you tighten it, the more play you have between the crown and the pinion. If you need to get the carrier and the crown more towards the right, it can be done by adding spacer washers behind the left bearing race in the wheel tube. In the meantime, you can try a thicker oil to reduce the noise.