Not sure if I can help, but sometimes...
Well, sometimes it is the bulb... I know you checked it, but if you connected grey-violet and the three other wires together and if you have power on grey-viloet wire, lights should be on.
Which light stopped working? Cluster, or all 4 (speedo, tacho, clock and cluster)?
About the side of the pin that is to be powered - if it worked before, it did not change itself. You should have power where you have the grey-violet wire.
Well, sometimes it is... a mirror view on these connectors - plugs and sockets. Double check it. Do not laugh, it happens. I will not tell you how I know it.
Or - you shorted it inside the plug and the grey-violet wire is touching the pin for or the other wire to the other bulbs inside the plug (or vice-versa). If you'd reversed the pins, you would have, I think, just the cluster bulb lit up.
The circuit is:
Grey violet supplies power from fuse 7, it goes through pin, the rheostat and then goes to 4 places (4 bulbs), one inside the cluster, three through pin and wires to speedo, tacho and clock. These three devices have their own grounds. The central cluster gets ground through the pin with the brown wire in the connector.
Look at the wiring diagram we have - it is a quite simple circuit.