Richard,
This is not good.
You do not want an extra relay in the circuit here; you need to find out what is causing this over-current situation. Arcing, sparking and flame spread in the switch is trouble--and quite possibly disaster waiting to happen.
I'm a bit surprised you don't have a fuse popping with this. I think you need to thoroughly investigate the right side lighting of your car (quite obviously) and look for shorts, and any compromising in the wiring and connections. You'll need to remove backing plates in the trunk, and get into the right side "headlight door" too. If you are not good with or don't understand electrical troubleshooting, find a friend to help you who is.
Something is amiss here and until you track it down, I suggest using hand signals! That kind of arcing you describe may have already compromised or damaged the integrity of the switch unit itself.