.../...Any help appreciated as I don't want to kill myself
Wise to be careful, since the power in the main coil springs is substantial!
Therefore, when you have the A-arms attached on the inside, and you remove the outer parts with the steering spindle and knuckle up/down,
keep the shock absorber attached as a safety.
When it comes to fitting the rubber seals each side of the upper and lower knuckle, I put a tube (pipe) with the right outer dia in the knuckle threaded part, and the rubber ring seals (and up, the washers) go on each side.
Then, I thread the bolt through, and it pushes the tube (pipe) out. Voilá