@Pawel66 it appears you have a 280SL and I think that was asymmetrical the whole time. Perhaps the asymmetrical donut somehow compensated for the change in the driveshaft? I know the 280SL, and assuming 250SL (and maybe later 230SL), all had the slightly different driveshaft and maybe the asymmetrical donut was to compensate in some manner.
@AllenF interestingly the geometry between the flex-disc and the bearing inside the donut will not change significantly under vehicle weight load. The rear of the transmission to the donut mount is relatively static, other than changes due to flex in the motor/trans mounts under different drivetrain load conditions. The driveshaft behind this bearing/donut will change under all types of load impact but this is why they have the universals at each end of the section of the shaft.
So the only thing we really know is that we don't know why the donut geometry changed or what impact that might have. My 230SL, with older driveshaft, had the asymmetrical but apparently wasn't supposed to...and worked fine for years.
Here's what I'm going to do:
1) Assemble the front portion of the driveshaft by properly attaching to the rear of the transmission on the flex-plate.
2) Completely re-attach the rear of the transmission. This means the rear mount to trans, the underlying plate to chassis, then lower transmission and mount that to the plate. This will button everything up at the end of the primary drivetrain and put the rear of the transmission where it belongs.
3) See if the center collar falls naturally to the mounting location in the center of the car. I would account for any flex from the weight of the front shaft, but given the flex-disc will be brand new I expect that to be minor and easy to account for.
4a) If the seat of the collar is unnatural in any way and it would appear as though the asymmetrical donut would make it better, then I'll buy the other donut, rinse, repeat.
4b) If the seat of the collar is natural and unforced in any way and looks likes it belongs there, then button up the collar where it is. It will be interesting to note if it is different that the previous location (not sure if will be as the rest of the geometry is unchanged....just interesting)
5) Attach the rest of the shaft (yes, it will be a bit of a pain inside the car...but I think I can do it safely and confidently)
6) Drive around hoping I do not feel any vibration.
Wish me luck!