Not specific to any past threads, but...
1. Valve Cover Finish. That's raw aluminum. When it was fresh from the mold, or fresh from professional cleaning it would have looked like the photo attached here. That was how Metric Motors prepared it. What did it look like BEFORE? That's the second photo. Kind of nasty.
You achieve that look only with a chemical cleaning. Any mechanical cleaning will damage the surface texture of the aluminum. Do a search for "aluminum cleaning" and you'll find products that work. Simple, over the counter products include wheel cleaners (Meguiars Hot Rims comes to mind), but you need to look for the ones with the most warning labels on them. Why? Because it's the nasty acids that do the dirty work. On Amazon, they sell a number of products under the aluminum brightener search, such as Aluma Bright, Purple Power, BooYah, Aluminator and more. Typically these more industrial products use either hydrofluoric acid or ammonium biflouride combined with either phosphoric, hydrochloric or sulfuric acids. Yeah, all nasty stuff--don't even think of doing this indoors or without significant eye, breathing and skin protection. But I'm here to tell you those products work like nobody's business.
Important note of caution: the hydrofluoric acid and derivatives, pass through the skin and will start to work on bones. You won't feel it. That's one reason why it's often mixed with the other acids...because those you will feel! "Because of the ability of hydrofluoric acid to penetrate tissue, poisoning can occur readily through exposure of skin or eyes, or when inhaled or swallowed. Symptoms of exposure to hydrofluoric acid may not be immediately evident, and this can provide false reassurance to victims, causing them to delay medical treatment." So take proper precautions but man the stuff works.. There are plenty of YouTube videos of people using various aluminum cleaners and brighteners with before, during and after results...
Once you've got the valve cover clean and bright, now the trick is to keep it that way. I think there are matte finish clear powder coats, but I have no idea if they yellow over time.
But speaking of powder coats, you may find a well equipped and highly experienced powder coater that could formulate a sort of mottled bright silver matte finish...you don't know until you find them and ask.
2. Exhaust Manifold. As pointed out, the exhaust manifold is raw cast iron. When "fresh out of the mold" raw cast iron is a medium dark gray--usually--with just a little bit of shine to it. The problem is, it begins to tarnish and rust nearly immediately. These high temperature ceramic coats come in many colors--including gray. CeraKote is one manufacturer but there are others out there. You really need to find a local finisher and visit them to chat them up about what you are trying to achieve. Once coated in the color you want it will probably stay that way for a very long time.
Hoping this keeps your winter projects going!